My hat goes off to Valerie Bertinelli for standing up for traditional marriage on The View last week.  Barbara Walters revealed that actress Mo’Nique in her pre-Oscar interview told her that she and husband Sidney Hicks have an “open marriage.”  Joy Behar mumbled something about someone being there as important and Sherri Shepherd brought up the fact that Valerie was married to a rock star.  “Open marriage. Shmopen marriage!” announced Bertinelli.  You go girl!   

Mo’Nique continues the interview with Walters by saying, “[sex outside the marriage] That’s not a deal breaker. That’s not something that we would say, ‘Oh my God because you were attracted to another person and because you happened to have sex let’s end the marriage.’”  Happened to have sex???  Is that like you ‘happened to forget milk at the corner store?’ or ‘please pass the salt?’ 

What about sex as an expression of a couple’s love?  You can buy a lot of vibrating products if you’re only interested in the ‘pleasure zone’.  Shouldn’t sex be a special gift that you only share with each other?  Naïve?  Perhaps. 

In a 1998 interview in Psychology Today, Dr. Shirley Glass says, “In this collegial world where we work together, you have to conduct yourself by being aware of appropriate boundaries, by not creating opportunities, particularly at a time when you might be vulnerable.”  The article was written around the time President Clinton allegedly ‘just happened to have sex’ with Monica Lewinsky.  Dr. Glass’ interview, Shattered Vows: Getting Beyond Betrayal is definitely worth the read. 

Deep down in the recesses of Mo’Nique’s mind I wonder if she really believes it’s ok for her husband to have sex with someone else?  I guess only Mo’Nique knows for sure.  How do you feel about “open marriage?”  Share your thoughts.

I’ve lost ten pounds!!!  My first weight loss milestone folks!  I’ve encountered a few bumps in the road here and there but haven’t devoured a whole chocolate cake or anything (not that it hasn’t crossed mind)!  I wanted to share a few observations I’ve made about myself and my “rebirth” as a woman with healthy [...]

We’ve all digested the sorted details of Tiger Woods and his famous flings and watched the media’s OJ Simpson style stalking of Woods’ house on national TV.  And just when we thought all the perpetrators had crawled back under their rocks, Tiger Woods resurfaces decked out in his Nike duds interrupting our TV viewing pleasure [...]

Jenny Sanford, Elizabeth Edwards, and Gayle Haggard.  What do all these women have in common?  They’re amazingly strong, over 40 and have cheating husbands!  High profile cheating husbands.  You don’t see Hilary Clinton at a press conference apologizing to her constituents about a boy toy in Argentina.  In fact, I can’t recall ever seeing a [...]

 
Sometimes we assume that when people get to a certain age they aren’t as competent as they used to be.  Unfair folks, but true.  That’s the furthest from the truth with my mom.  At 76, she’s as sharp as a tack.  A very sharp tack.  Last week my beautiful mother had emergency abdominal surgery.  Her [...]

I can’t believe how much I rely on food to satisfy my emotional cravings!  A very close friend of ours passed away recently.  He was an amazing guy and I really miss him. 
After the memorial service, the church ladies had prepared a lovely luncheon and if you’re a church goer you know that nobody cooks [...]

The day of reckoning has come.  For the last week I’ve eaten with wild abandon—peanut butter squares, butter tarts, New York Fries, buffets—and strange but true, my clothing seems to be shrinking???  But the harsh reality is…I’M EXPANDING AT A RAPID RATE!!!  It’s time to get serious folks.  I had mentioned that one of my [...]

My husband’s BlackBerry has become a member of our family.  BlackBerry has eaten breakfast with us at a swanky hotel in Washington, basked in the sun on the Florida coast, crashed my sister’s 50th birthday party and has recently found religion.
I’m happy to announce that BlackBerry has a new friend, BlackBerry Storm.  Imagine my delight [...]

Last year, my 15-year-old nephew almost went into cardiac arrest when I pulled out a feminine wipe from my purse so he could clean his hands at Tim Hortons.
“Oh my God! Put that away!!!”
“What?”
“That!” he shrieks pointing at my hand.
“You mean this wipe.”
“Shhhh.  God! Someone will see you.”
“You said you needed something for your hands.”
“Yea [...]

Happy New Year!  I’ve got a feelin’ it’s gonna’ be a good year.  At the end of the Christmas holidays, I usually struggle with the thought of taking down the Christmas tree and putting away the decorations.  Packing up all the fun memories, happy feelings and kindness that everybody shows at Christmas time into a [...]