Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…
…you are not my friend at all. Mirrors in department store fitting rooms have to be the worst. Must be cheap glass because I don’t look like that in my mirrors at home. If I’m shopping for clothes and the mirror lies to me, I say to my husband, “bad mirror day,” and that’s his cue to head straight for the nearest exit.
And hotels. Mirrors in hotels are everywhere – above the dresser, on the closet doors, above the sink. And god forbid you catch a glimpse of your naked backside in the funhouse of mirrors in what should be considered a private sanctuary to rest your head after a grueling fourteen hours of solitary confinement in the car with your spouse.
Memories of the mirrors at the Drury Hotel in Dayton, Ohio will be forever scorched in my brain. Bone tired and ready to just crawl into bed, I scraped up the energy to brush my teeth at the sink located in front of the full-length mirrors attached to the closet.
As exhausted as I was, I could still hear my dental hygienist’s voice resounding in my head, “brush your teeth the full length of your favourite song.” I couldn’t come up with any tunes in my head so I absently looked up from the sink and good God…there it was! My saggy white butt staring back at me from the closet mirrors. You could see it from every angle, none of which made it anymore appealing. My mother always told me a good soldier never looks back. Now I know why.
“I’ll be coverin’ that up in a real hurry,” I thought to myself as I grabbed the nearest towel that, of course, was about the size of a tea towel.
“Coming to bed soon, honey,” my husband called in a pleasantly strained voice. He clearly wanted ‘lights out’ so he could slip into blissful slumber as I was left to deal with the frightening image in the closet mirror.
I have since come to terms with “my saggy butt” and the whole host of other challenges I find myself faced with by my over 40 status. My friends and I all share the same life changing issues that are reserved for women like us. Some fun, some not so fun. But if we stick together, we’ll make it through.
Anyone else suffering from anything sagging? I’d love to hear from you.




This post has 10 comments
September 8th, 2009
Dear Kathryn,
I am a victim of online dating…I blame myself. Having said that I can assure your readers that the Internet is one scary place. You must be extremely careful…Check out the candidates and don’t be fooled by lip service.
These men will tell you anything you want to hear. More importantly, never let them know where you live and if you should give out your number give them your cell.
I’m still on the hunt but more careful and observant now…If you can’t check them out don’t go!!! Good luck to all the women out there…Be careful and think with your head!!!!
September 8th, 2009
Cindy I’m sorry you were a victim of one of these scammers. Thanks for your advice: think with your head!
September 8th, 2009
Hi Kathryn
What a cool website… Something all women over 40 can relate to and tell all… on your blog. My Saggy Butt is such an appropriate title, after reading your first post Mirror Mirror on the Wall…. I realized that someone else was aware of the “Saggy Butt thing”. A big sigh of relief knowing I was not the only one. After climbing over the “40 year old barge ” myself a few years ago, I have experienced all kinds of, let’s just call them “weird issues”, facing a 40 something female. Some quite frankly, after you get over the emotional horror of it all, are quite funny… Although, it really took a while to find the humour in it. I have a group of friends that are all going through very similar things. My mom would say it is something you don’t speak of.
Thank you for making a site that we can all relate to and talk openly about the “weird Issues” facing women over 40 … I will be reading every post to come with great anticipation…. Keep up the good work… and keep them coming….
Maryann
Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
September 8th, 2009
Thanks for your comment Maryann. And no you are not alone…
The “emotional horror”…you have a great way with words!
September 10th, 2009
More weird issues- I wonder if dying the short and curlies -grey hair story is worth a comment!??
Awesome site, format and presentation Catwoman – look forward to not only informative but the humourous stories Im sure are to come!
Jean
September 10th, 2009
More weird issues- I wonder if dying the short and curlies -grey hair story is worth a comment!??
Awesome site, format and presentation Catwoman – look forward to not only informative but the humourous stories Im sure are to come!
Jean
September 10th, 2009
Interesting comment Jean. Where would we be without “weird issues?”…
September 9th, 2009
Godd luck with your saggybutt K!!
September 9th, 2009
Thanks Joan!
March 10th, 2010
Great stuff. MySaggyButt.com kicks ass.