Part 6 — How I Found True Love Online
After five years of struggling in the trenches of online dating, I FINALLY found love online. Believe me, there were Saturday nights when I was convinced that I’d be sitting alone watching reruns of Seinfeld wrapped in an afghan with my blue perm but now I’ll have an afghan for two. I met Ed on Canadian Personals and we’ve been married for almost three years. Poor guy had to pay to get back on the site to open my email. Best $37.42 he ever spent!
Be Patient
People must have thought I was in reverse when it came to settling down for the second time. I’d been divorced for sixteen years before I met Ed (it was TelePersonals before the computer age)! Online dating can be a lonely frustrating road – cancelled dates, no shows, endless phone conversations, telling your story over and over – but with a little patience and perseverance it pays off.
Try a Different Site
If you’re not getting the results you want from the site you’re on, look elsewhere. Google “dating sites,” and you’ll be reading for a decade! Having said that, give the site you’re on a chance. Putting profiles all over the place can be confusing and costly. If you’re not meeting the guys you want at a particular site, review your profile and photo before you jump ship.
Tough Times Ahead
Online dating is not for the faint of heart. You’re at a disadvantage compared to more conventional dating because you aren’t initially meeting people face to face. At times I would rather have had needles stuck in my eyes than have to face yet another “first date.” But I knew I wanted to meet someone and giving up just wasn’t an option.
Be Good To Yourself
Online dating can become an obsession. It’s like a drug. New matches arriving everyday in your email. Photos of attractive men. Smiles and winks on your profile. Once in awhile you need to come up for air! Take a little break from the online dating scene. Catch a movie. Go out with your girlfriends. Online dating isn’t the only way to meet great guys!
Enjoy!
Life isn’t a dress rehearsal. So relax and have some fun! This is a wrap for my series, “Survival Strategies for Online Dating.” I know if you keep some of the techniques I’ve talked about in mind during your online dating journey, you’ll find him.
