My hat goes off to Valerie Bertinelli for standing up for traditional marriage on The View last week.  Barbara Walters revealed that actress Mo’Nique in her pre-Oscar interview told her that she and husband Sidney Hicks have an “open marriage.”  Joy Behar mumbled something about someone being there as important and Sherri Shepherd brought up the fact that Valerie was married to a rock star.  “Open marriage. Shmopen marriage!” announced Bertinelli.  You go girl!   

Mo’Nique continues the interview with Walters by saying, “[sex outside the marriage] That’s not a deal breaker. That’s not something that we would say, ‘Oh my God because you were attracted to another person and because you happened to have sex let’s end the marriage.’”  Happened to have sex???  Is that like you ‘happened to forget milk at the corner store?’ or ‘please pass the salt?’ 

What about sex as an expression of a couple’s love?  You can buy a lot of vibrating products if you’re only interested in the ‘pleasure zone’.  Shouldn’t sex be a special gift that you only share with each other?  Naïve?  Perhaps. 

In a 1998 interview in Psychology Today, Dr. Shirley Glass says, “In this collegial world where we work together, you have to conduct yourself by being aware of appropriate boundaries, by not creating opportunities, particularly at a time when you might be vulnerable.”  The article was written around the time President Clinton allegedly ‘just happened to have sex’ with Monica Lewinsky.  Dr. Glass’ interview, Shattered Vows: Getting Beyond Betrayal is definitely worth the read. 

Deep down in the recesses of Mo’Nique’s mind I wonder if she really believes it’s ok for her husband to have sex with someone else?  I guess only Mo’Nique knows for sure.  How do you feel about “open marriage?”  Share your thoughts.

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